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Author: Mike

  • Why I don't cheat.

    Why I don't cheat.

    A tale of 2 exam papers

    Twenty seven years ago, in a small but important town in southern Nigeria,  two teenage boys – bored with revising for their GCSEs – succumbed to the temptation of ‘guaranteeing the outcome’ of their Chemistry exam.

    As with any situation with demand, supply always rises to meet it. As such, both boys independently went off to acquire the exam paper from different sources.

    A few days later, they jubilantly reunited – each with their exam paper – suitably contained in large brown envelopes. As each boy opened his envelope and read the questions to see how well they were prepared, the first student commented that one of the questions didn’t make sense, thus prompting the second boy to look at the question.

    Before too long, both boys looked at the papers side by side in disbelief. Both papers seemed identical on the front page but as soon as the pages were turned, the questions were completely different.

    If they were different to each other, were either the correct paper or were both actually just passable fakes.

    Despite their unscrupulous intentions, lady luck smiled on the boys. They still had a week before the exam and, to put it mildly, resumed revising with unquestionable focus.

    One of those boys was me. I remembered I paid 70 Naira for my fake exam papers, at the time that was about £20.

    That was the first and ultimately the last time I ever tried to cheat – neither in an exam or in any dealings with anyone.

    Lessons to live by

    That experience held some powerful lessons for a young person to learn, namely:

    That some things are too good to be true – especially when the alternative is hard work. That the time you spend chasing the quick win is valuable time being ‘stolen’ from working hard on the surer win.

    Something quite tremendous happened in addition to the lesson – I developed a strong principle of not cheating and not tolerating it from anyone else.

    This is not to say don’t look for shortcuts – because there are some. But rather, invest in looking for the honest ones, that don’t compromise your principles. Of course, if you don’t have that principle then none of this matters.

    What experiences and lessons about cheating have you had? Or what principles have you developed from your own experiences – I’d love to hear them.

     

  • Offer: Let's have a helpful conversation

    Offer: Let's have a helpful conversation

    It seems that when I’m most busy is when I also seem to want to share and help others the most – so continuing in a long established tradition, I would like to offer some office hours to help anyone who needs it.

    But first – at the risk of inventing another buzzword/phrase that gets trademarked and certified, what is a ‘helpful conversation’?

    It is simply a time that you bring something a person needs help on, we talk about it and you leave feeling better, clearer, energised or otherwise ‘helped’. If you don’t leave the conversation feeling like it was s good spend of your time, then we haven’t had a ‘helpful conversation’.

    It isn’t free, it’s priceless.

    My time is the most precious thing I have and I offer it, in the hope that we both have a brilliant conversation and learn and share from each other. My reward is knowing that I helped you.

    So, what could be helpful to you?

    Here are some things I know I can help with:

    Startups

    because I’ve spent the last 15 years learning by doing

    Bootstrapping a startup
    Designing your test-the-market strategy – MVPs, guerrilla testing
    Essential tools I use everyday to planning, testing, prototyping etc super easy
    Designing marketing experiments
    Dealing with failure – how to take a lickin’ and keep on tickin’
    Hiring and equity sharing
    Advising your startup on a regular basis

    Agile Things

    because I’ve been coaching for over 10 years and been a dev, product guy, maker in this space for the last 16 years 

    Most things about Scrum, Kanban, Lean and variations therein.
    Should you get agile certification? I have an alternative view and can help talk you through your options.
    Building and growing self-organisation, empowered teams
    Being an effective manager or executive in an agile organisation or during a transition

    Helping People be Successful & Joyful

    because that is basically what my entire career has been about – and I love it.

    Using improv to get better at being present, collaborative and generally ‘good to work with’
    Software and tech industry career advice – what you might want to invest in (and not) as you start out in tech –  attitudes and essential skills
    Valuing learning and relationships.
    Getting mentors

    Business meeting culture

    because I built a startup to fix this and it has 6000 users.

    Simple techniques to transform your personal meeting behaviour
    Make any meeting better (or at the very least, suck less)
    Helping your organisation have fewer and better meetings

    I want a helpful conversation,  how do we do this?

    I thought you’d never ask! This is simple as pie.

    If you don’t know anything about me – I encourage you to check out my about page, my LinkedIn and some of my tweets.

    Then, if you think I could be helpful,  checkout my office hours availability, book an available time slot and show up.

    There, all done. I look forward helping however I can.

     

  • Be a Person of Substance

    Be a Person of Substance

    I love to take my dog – Maya – for walks and she loves it when I throw for her and she fetches. A long throw really helps her open up the speed!

    As I took her for a walk this morning, I brought with us one of her ‘throw and chew’ balls. Much like a tennis ball but squidgier.

    Usually I throw rocks for her and I have a pretty long throw – but despite my usual effort, this ball didn’t travel as far.

    Now, it was substantially larger than a stone and almost perfectly spherical – looking picture perfect to throw, but it lacked density and this is why it didn’t make the most of the strength with which it was hurled. In fact, sometimes it only travelled a few meters! Needless to say, Maya was none too pleased.

    It got me thinking

    I believe that Life, the Universe and the force that is greater than us all, seems to want to propel us to great heights towards what we wish for ourselves, but what do we bring to this ambition to help it along?

    If life presents an opportunity to propel a person forward – perhaps to greater learning and prosperity, how does that person get themselves in a position to maximise how far they travel?

    As I pondered this, I wondered if the density or substance of the rock was more suitable to be propelled than the ball – which ‘looked’ like the best thing to be propelled.

    What is the substance of a person that helps them make the most of the propulsion that life offers? Seems to me that by the time the opportunity arrives,  there is likely very little a person can do to acquire the skills to make the most of that particular gift. So it seems substance is a set of general characteristics and capabilities.

    Here’s a list of attributes that I think count as ‘substance’ by which a person ‘goes far’.

    1. Integrity – being true to your word and being guided by your principles.
    2. Being good to work with – being respectful of others, open to collaboration.
    3. Being adaptable – anticipating and responding elegantly to change,
    4. Learning what they need to – and quickly.
    5. Being generous – with their time, knowledge and resources.
    6. Being open – in mind and of heart.
    7. Persistence –  knowing when to push on (and pushing on) and when to pull out.

    I’m sure this is not exhaustive but what do you think?
    Do you agree with my list, can you think of any more?
    How does one develop these capacities to be a person of substance?

  • Yes, learning is hard. But do it anyway.

    Yes, learning is hard. But do it anyway.

    It seems popular, these days, for coaches and consultants to talk about ‘continuous learning’ or the ‘learning organisation’.

    Learning is like sex – everyone nods knowingly when it is being talked about, but few are actually doing it well or at all.

    For me, learning a new skill is hard – especially if you are unconsciously competent – i.e. an expert, in another domain. Although I take baby steps and mentally (an emotionally) prepare to feel inadequate or stupid, that preparation does not fully protect me against those feelings. I do feel frustrated and stupid when I learn something new.

    I’m not one of those naturally curious ‘take it apart to see how it works’ nerds. I need a reason to do anything – even if that reason is simply to have some fun. Luckily I am a solution dreamer – to problems that I see everywhere and even those that haven’t yet peaked. So, what I lack in curiosity, I make up for in imagination.

    Of course, learning is only the beginning – think of it as an introduction to a new skill. You are barely becoming competent, you are simply prepping yourself to begin. Practice, once you have the basics, is really where I make all my solid, sticky learning. This holds its own hardships too.

    My preferred style of learning anything is to have a goal – for example, when I learned to knit, I set myself a goal of knitting a scarf.

    This goal-focused approach means that I can focus my learning, ignoring those things that may be valuable but do not directly move me towards my goal. It also means I have a reason to practice – rather than to learn, it is to create my goal.

    What often suffers when I take this approach is that I skip a whole load of important theoretical back story of why certain things are the way they are. But on the plus side I get something tangible quickly.

    Every step of the learning experience, especially in the early stages are painful. I feel frustrated that I’m making such slow progress. I find having expertise in a related domain makes things worse.

    For example, as I learn React Native to build my Personal Relationships Management app – “Percy” – the WTF/min are really high because I know how quickly I can achieve the same functionality in Java or Ruby – both of which I code with some fluency.

    Of course you hear those well meaning fools who harp on about ‘make it fun’ – clearly they haven’t done any learning recently. How do you make the constant feeling of inadequacy or the sense of being a dumdum any fun?

    When I learned to juggle, I remember feeling physically sick from sense of failure when – in spite of my best efforts – I just couldn’t keep three balls in the air at the same time. Until I did and that sense was immediately quashed forever.

    This turnaround is addictive – and anticipating when I will get beyond the tunnel of crap into the light of palpable competence – itself is exciting. It’s a rush. It’s what keeps me showing up to learn and improve.

    The capabilities you develop are rewarding – if nothing else, this new skill gives you a new set of filters and paradigms to see the world through. It gives me a new world from which to draw metaphors from.

    So – of course it hurts, but it’s worth it – so do it anyway.

    How does learning affect you and why do you show up?

     

  • I can't write about colonialism or the Commonwealth

    I can't write about colonialism or the Commonwealth

    I’ve been trying, without success, for the last month to write a blog post on the curse of colonialism and the abomination that is the Commonwealth.

    As I explore my thoughts and organise them into something coherent, I become paralysed by the scale of the destruction that the UK has wreaked and continues to wreak with its imperial history.

    Britain has truly changed the world, in a way that world is worse off.

    From language to cultural identity, to the idea of sovereignty – colonialism shifted it all. From the idea of what is beautiful, to who is intelligent – Britain orchestrated a deliberate collective mind-fuck through time and space bending and breaking once powerful cultures to its shallow, defunct own.

    So, I can’t write about this right now, partly because of the scale and mostly because I am so incredibly sad about it.

    Perhaps one day.

  • I finally get Trump

    I finally get Trump

    From the moment Donald Trump threw his hat into the US presidential campaign back in June 2015 until his controversial win in November 2016, I’ve experienced a range of emotions from hilarity, incredulity, fear, disappointment and now – lingering sadness and disappointment.

    Why do I care, why do any of us – non-Americans – care what happens in American politics. Are we obsessed and chattering about Ugandan elections – such as they are – or Indonesia? Or any other country for that matter?

    We care because America has been the military, cultural, economic – and therefore – global political empire of the last 70 years. “Has been” is the key part here – this empire is dying – there is no doubt about that. Every empire ends, regardless of how long, how great or how wide its sphere of influence.

    I – like the rest – of the world expected a certain type of global leadership from the President of the United States. In part, this expectation has been set by history. With a few exceptions (ahem, George ‘Dubya’ Bush), American presidents and their administrations have maintained the global status quo – dealing respectfully with their allies and being the leader that was needed.

    Not anymore. Trump is not maintaining the status quo, not in any sphere of his administration. He has asset stripping CEOs in his cabinet, Russian-buddying, obviously dodgy-as-fuck campaign managers. His administration pursues policies that devalue life, hurt innocent people, create divisions and actively demonstrates aggression to everyone.

    Personally, he seems to have the morals of a brothel keeper, no sense of decorum, very little social skill, is unwilling to listen, extremely egotistical and seems to have very little goodness. He even fails at the very basic requirement of the office – being there as a voice of reason, measure and comfort for his country when it experiences tragedy.

    I finally get him. He is a terrible United States President.
    He is also the best one to catalyse the demise of this dying empire.

    His latest ( 5/Dec/2017) –  bucking of convention is to announce that the US administration is recognising Jerusalem as the capital of Israel. This is causing huge anger and response from pretty much every corner of the political space.

    Jerusalem is central to three of the worlds big religions –  Judaism, Christianity and Islam. It’s dumb and shouldn’t matter who controls it politically, but the Muslim world wants a piece of it under Muslim control through the stalled peace process between the Israelis and the Palestinians. The hitherto best chance for peace between those two is a two state solution with shared control i.e. division, of Jerusalem. Israelis and their obsession with ‘the chosen people and special relationship with God’  narrative claim an ‘undivided Jerusalem is the eternal capital of the Jewish people’.

    But back to Trump – he is a simple man. Some may even say, simple minded. He is a pussy grabbing, McDonald’s munching, unashamed capitalist and his administration is driven – perhaps more than any other previous one – by his own personal narrow world view. This world-view, like most people is informed by those we hang around with, what we hear and are exposed to daily. By our relationships.

    He is very much pro-Israel. Why wouldn’t he be? the world of finance and big business in the US and especially in New York is awash with Jewish and pro-Israeli relationships. Truth be told, so it has always been. The Clintons, Obama, Bush etc have all had deeper relationships – personal and professionally with pro-Israeli people compared to pro-peace/pro-Palestinian people.

    So – Trump says ‘Jerusalem is Israel’s capital’. This is stating the obvious. The US will recognise Jerusalem as Israel’s capital – so what? Trump spouting it doesn’t magically make it so.

    Jerusalem is already Israel’s capital.
    The Israelis treat it as such and no amount of condemnation or support is going to change that. Will other countries follow suit – I strongly doubt it – no Arab/Muslim country that has diplomatic ties with Israel will be moving their embassies to Jerusalem. The Germans might, but they would anyway – because of the perpetual national guilt they carry for the Holocaust. Will the UK? Probably not – they are facing Brexit and looking to increase trade with many Muslim countries to mitigate that disaster – now is hardly the time to court more controversy.

    China and India have so far been very diplomatic about it all but have their own global ambitions. Russia picks its fights very carefully and this is not one it is interested in and besides, for countries like China, Russia and India, being led on this by the US is not a reasonable part of their big global ambitions, it would show subservience, not independence.

    What happens when any nation strays too far beyond the range of acceptable behaviour? Unfailingly, they get sidelined. The UK and Spain are prime examples, post Ottoman Turkey is another. Their relevance as global powers are questioned, their standing in the family of nations diminishes whether they choose to recognise it.

    From domestic gun control to global climate change, from tackling wealth inequality in the US to North Korea, Iran and Cuba – Trump has shown he is willing to do the unreasonable thing. He has nearly done enough for the rest of the world’s nations to sideline him and his country, nearly enough to seal the irrelevance of their leadership.

    So, I get it. Trump is the driver of the United States’ unrelenting , full-speed trajectory to global mediocrity. That is a better and more achievable definition of Making America Great Again. By ‘great’ meaning back to living in its own bubble and helping the world by not being able to fuck it up. I, for one, welcome it.

  • "Negotiating sex is rather difficult"

    "Negotiating sex is rather difficult"

    Even if you don’t read this post, go watch this:

    http://www.bbc.com/news/av/stories-42171536/world-hacks-the-secret-ring-helping-women-protect-themselves-from-hiv

    There is so much in the western media of sexual harassment and assault, so I want to also draw attention to this –

    I saw a recent BBC video about a secret ring that some women in Malawi are testing to protect themselves against HIV from partners who they cannot ‘negotiate sex’ with OR even negotiate them putting on a condom.

    This is shocking!

    Men who practice unprotected sex with many other women and then come back to their wives – who undoubtedly know that their husbands are sleeping with other women.

    Yet the wives cannot say ‘No’ or even require that their husbands wear protection!

    If we are angry that Harvey Weinstein manipulated and harassed actresses to have sex with him or that a UK MP put his hand on a women’s knee or Louis CK masturbated in front of women without their permission – then what should we feel about women who are facing a real risk of devastating disease and cannot say ‘No’ to unsafe sex?

    If this bothers you, please do something.

    Watch the video, write about it, donate to something, share with others and bring some attention to this.

    Please just don’t do nothing. Apathy destroys lives.

    Thank you.

  • Day 1: I am Rohingya #51Days

    Day 1: I am Rohingya #51Days

    Today as part of my #51days act of solidarity, I shall change my twitter profile to

    ‘I am Rohingya”

    The Rohingya are an ethnic group that live in Myanmar – formerly Burma – they are mostly Muslims in a country that is predominantly Buddhist.

    For a toxic mix of reasons – ranging from religious difference, land grab, ethnic hatred to simply being  – the Rohingya have been persecuted almost out of existence. First by successive military juntas and now from a democratically elected government itself led by a former political prisoner and Nobel laureate Aung San Suu Kyi.

    The Rohingya seem to be the favorite whipping boy of everyone with power in Myanmar and the world seems mostly deaf and mute to their persecution.

    Myanmar is signatory to multiple human right treaties and conventions  – pretty much all the ones that matter. It has obligations to protect the rights of indigenous people, women, children, the disabled and pretty much everyone in its jurisdiction.

    The Rohingya do not deserve to be murdered, their women raped, their leaders tortured and disappeared. No one does. If they have committed a crime – charge and apply the law against them. To the best of my knowledge, their only crime, as a group, is to exist.

    The violence and discrimination is both by agents of the Myanmar start under the pretense of security and by private militias with the tacit and often, active, support of the State.

    Today, I stand with the Rohingya.

    Please learn more about this here: http://www.rohingya.org/portal/

     

    Photo by AK Rockefeller

  • 51 days of solidarity and advocacy.

    There are 51 days until Christmas 2016.

    For each of those days,I will change my name on Twitter to reflect a cause I want to support and bring some attention in a small way.

    Why?

    There is so much wrong with the world. There is so much that is right too.
    We are each nodes in a big network of humanity and when we refuse to pass on the right or suppress the wrong, we degrade the network. It stops working and it lets the mundane overshadow the truly meaningful.

    But I’m only a node and over the next 51 days, I’m going to be a little better at being that.

    How?

    I’m pretty active on Twitter. I blog about things that interest me, I jump into conversations, I rant. My tweets are shared, liked and retweeted that creates reach beyond the 3000+ people that follow me. A change in name  – especially one that provokes curiosity spreads my message. It might just provoke the right action from the right person.

    What can I do to help?

    Retweet me, like my tweets.
    Tweet about this action – if you support the same cause or simply want to support my activism.
    Share this post.
    Share the messages that have the hashtag #51days – they will be about the issue of the day.
    Join me – if you’re on Twitter, change your twitter name in solidarity.

    Or simply just share about this stupid thing Mike is doing now.

    It all helps.

    Just. Don’t. Do. Nothing.

     

    Photo by OnTask

    Photo by jared

  • Passion, care and the Agile Manifesto is really all you need.

    Passion, care and the Agile Manifesto is really all you need.

    As I sat with a professional services team at my client, launching into my tried and tested description of what agility means and how to do it sustainably, the last 11 years of my life flashed in front of me and I saw something that I hadn’t realised before. It both scare and energised me.

    My typical approach to this particular exercise is to begin by introducing my audience to the Agile Manifesto – the spark of the movement. I remember to use that word – ‘movement’ because I truly believe this is what those who truly do agile software development are part of.

    Then I pretty quickly move on to processes (or process frameworks) – the ‘how’. I do this partly because I assume that is what folks want to hear – “enough of this happy clappy, pie-in-the-sky bollocks. Show us the meetings, the artefacts and stuff we can put on our CVs”.

    I also do it because I hadn’t really stopped long enough to consume the manifesto, to meditate deeply on it. And that might be because I wasn’t ready.

    Well now I am.

    As I wrote the 4 value statements on the whiteboard, time stopped. For context, here is the Manifesto for Agile Software Development:

    Manifesto for Agile Software Development

    We are uncovering better ways of developing
    software by doing it and helping others do it.
    Through this work we have come to value:

    Individuals and interactions over processes and tools
    Working software over comprehensive documentation
    Customer collaboration over contract negotiation
    Responding to change over following a plan

    That is, while there is value in the items on
    the right, we value the items on the left more.

    What actually triggered this epiphany was a simple question:

    What would it take to fully understand each of those value statements deeply and live them deliberately – every day and in every facet of your team or organisation?

    If you imagine a journey to increased agility was a 12 step program where you couldn’t proceed to the next step without satisfactorily completing  the preceding step,  then seeking to seriously answer that question would be steps 1 – 11 and mostly like a ‘formal’ process or framework like Scrum or SAFe would not even feature.

    Don’t be fooled – this stuff is complex. Take an even modest attempt at going a little deeper into the first value statement – ‘ Individuals and interactions over processes and tools’ – :

    • Who are the individuals, what are the interactions? How do we know they are the right ones?
    • What personal and professional skills and competencies does each individual need in order to participate meaningfully in these interactions? How do they acquire and develop them?
    • What conditions sustain meaningfully interactions, how we create and maintain them?
    • How do we continuously sense that the interactions are not yielding what they are intended to yield? What do we do when that happens?

    This is not a remotely exhaustive list, but they are considerable questions. In my mind, these are not ask-once-and-forget questions, they are to be asked and answered regularly.

    There is even an earlier starting point.  Do we have the skills to ask the right questions?
    Tools like powerful questions, clean language might be useful places to look to gain those skills. I have met far more people who suck at asking the most effective questions than not.

    Now I’m not saying don’t do Scrum or use Kanban or XP or whatever the flavour of the month is. But it is very possible that you might do those and not enjoy the agility you seek, worse still you may get lost in process and without a solid understanding of these fundamental first principles you will struggle to regain direction.

    I am saying go deeper into these 4 statements. Fight the urge to go into processes and the tickboxes. Do not simply ask questions and pat yourselves on the back that you answered them – actually execute on the answers. Make those answers make a difference to your work and your life.

    And oh, if any of your answers is ‘do process X’ , then please consider getting one of these:

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